Arthur, Yes I've been reading the same thing. I talked to my coach about it. I know I need to show her my changes, and then when she asks, just say that I've been reading a few books. If she asks which ones, then tell her about it. I just don't think she'll ask. I do have a weird situation though. My first wife and I have a 12D together, and my current wife and my 12D are pretty close. My ex and my current want to keep my current W involved with my 12D. When I told my ex about the book, she got a copy and now wants to give it to my current W. My coach told me that I can't stop that and it might not be too bad if my ex gives it to her. I just don't want her to think it came from me in any way. If she did, she would not read it with an open mind.
I know patience is the key, but dang, it's only 8 days to filing, and we have minimal contact.
Last week, she didn't stop calling and contacting. Since Sunday, no contact at all. I know about the roller coaster of emotions, but it's weird.
H - 38 W - 37 Married 9/17/05 Sep 6/21/08 Filing for D 7/25/08 Only a month from filing to done in my state.
