Reading your thread has given me so much more insight into my WAW.
The other WAW's on this thread have given me good advice but your thread almost seems to mirror my wife.
I've got a thread going if you have the time to read it.
I want to give W help and support but the M sitch is causing me massive anxiety (so bad i can't function) so i'm distancing myself from W. Not spoken for 8 days now which is the longest in 11 years.
Can't give you any better advice than that already given except to say thankyou for sharing