Sounds like a miscommunication evening to me. My guess is that he was trying to tell you that you have a nice home (even if it's not the one you want), and that with some work it could be better. But I think he meant it all as a compliment. He didn't at all see how you would take it. So it's good that you told him how you felt.
He is all wrapped up in himself. That is sad for you. He has pretty much pushed you out of his life. Will this phase pass? Probably, but I don't know how long it will take. It is not unusual for an artist to be consumed by his work. Just like the Sex and the City episodes with Alexandr Petrovsky.
You still need to join the fb group. Did you get an invite?
