Who knows. But life doesn't work that way. You can't live backwards. Knowing what I know now, I think that my life would have worked out fine either way. But would I have had any children with OM? And if I hadn't had kids, would I be even close to as happy as I am now? They certainly would not be the kids I have and love. So it is better to just be happy with what I have and not think about what could have been. I could have been hit by a bus. Who knows?