I just posted to Stillreeling about his sitch and the words being said to me by my W. In my last several posts I have talked about my waning patience and tolerance. At the same time I was being very direct to my W in regards to what I want out of our M. Asking for what we want and need isn't a crime. It has actually brought us closer together lately. She has been saying many wonderful things to me and about our future. At the same time she has had revelations about why she has made things hard on herself with her actions. Those statements felt far better than the compliments she gave me. The admission of error is step one of correction. She has even given me credit for halping her to understand how to make her life easier. She sent me a prose piece called "The Awakening" (way to long to post here, but I am sure e-mail will get it to you soon) that describes that point in your life when you understand and find true happiness. She has found hers she says.
We are teaching an "Engagement Enrichment" class this a.m. for about 50 engaged couples. Our topics are commitment and communication. We intro ourselves and tell the class "you don't want Mr Rogers teaching a drug abuse class, you want a former drug addict, right? You also don't want Ward and June Cleaver teaching a M class, so that is why we are here". That is a good ice breaker but very truthful as well. We have taught this class for 5 years and every year it gets easier and we have more experiences to share. We give them the "real deal" not some rosey picture of "happily ever after". We have a lot of fun with the group and usually get excellent feedback and much appreciation for telling them how it really is and how to survive it. By the way, I had lunch with that client who was having M problems and it looks pretty damn bleak. His said his W is way done with him but I told him not until the D is final and maybe not even then is it "over". He is doing a lot of good things but it looks pretty bad. He doesn't think there is any infidelity but the circumstances would have me doubting that. I didn't address that though.
This week at work (disrespectful employees, deadlines)and with MIL (hasn't taken care of headstone, too busy with new boyfriend) has been truly stressful. At least all is well at home and next week I am off for another vacation. This time there is no outside family, no pageant, and no plans. Just the five of us having fun. Good week to reflect and enjoy what we have, each other.
Watch for that "The Awakening" e-mail to show up in your mailbox soon.
