Whew...sorry I sent you into a rant!!!! But then again that is what this place is all about...is the money thing the main issue with your m, or are there other things...I can't understand a m falling apart because of money only...you both have different ideas about it, and there has to be a balance...does seem like she is buying happiness...it is one thing to like to shop and spend within the means..and then to just get everything you want...

Sue

p.s...you must know the big bankers... my h really does not make that much ..honest..he's the auditor...small town...could do better in a larger area, but the money is not as important as staying in our hometown and raising our kids here.