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Mini update...

No contact from W or from me to her throughout the day.
Interesting though I stopped at the drug store on my way home and come wheelin into the parking lot and whose car should be in the lot yes the W's car I'm thinkin oh the irony.

So I go inside and walk down a few isle's & there she is looking at magazines, so she looks up and is abit startled and then composes herself and gives me a nice strong warm hug (oh I love those) I say hi fancy meetin you here. For some reason she is abit nervous and starts doing what she always does which she finds something about herself to put down, well her favorite one is gettin on herself about her hair. Now to my W her hair is the most important thing in the world to her, but always the 1st to put down when she is uncomfortable. I let her ramble abit and then change the subject. Idle chit chat goes on and I say well I better get my stuff and get home to the dog, so she okay and gives me a hug goodbye, I say talk to you later.

I get my stuff and go walking out and she is still in the lot in the car, she rolls down her window I squat down and lean in the car and look her in the eyes and say your hair is beautiful she fumbles around and finally gets out thank you. As I was standing up I stick my hand in the window and caressed the back of her head and said don't be so hard on yourself you are a beautiful woman, have a good night and I will talk to you later.

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You ARE a smooth talker, my friend! You hit on the one thing that would melt her heart, said your piece, then walked away for her to think about it. WOOHOO!! Good for you!

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Originally Posted By: Racefan
Mini update...

No contact from W or from me to her throughout the day.
Interesting though I stopped at the drug store on my way home and come wheelin into the parking lot and whose car should be in the lot yes the W's car I'm thinkin oh the irony.

So I go inside and walk down a few isle's & there she is looking at magazines, so she looks up and is abit startled and then composes herself and gives me a nice strong warm hug (oh I love those) I say hi fancy meetin you here. For some reason she is abit nervous and starts doing what she always does which she finds something about herself to put down, well her favorite one is gettin on herself about her hair. Now to my W her hair is the most important thing in the world to her, but always the 1st to put down when she is uncomfortable. I let her ramble abit and then change the subject. Idle chit chat goes on and I say well I better get my stuff and get home to the dog, so she okay and gives me a hug goodbye, I say talk to you later.

I get my stuff and go walking out and she is still in the lot in the car, she rolls down her window I squat down and lean in the car and look her in the eyes and say your hair is beautiful she fumbles around and finally gets out thank you. As I was standing up I stick my hand in the window and caressed the back of her head and said don't be so hard on yourself you are a beautiful woman, have a good night and I will talk to you later.

Brian


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Hey Brian

Sounds like an interesting exchange between the two of you. It sounds like you handled it brilliantly. That's like the opposite of a 2X4. That should feel kind of strange to you. Good going brother. Keep the faith.


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Originally Posted By: sadmilitarywife
You ARE a smooth talker, my friend! You hit on the one thing that would melt her heart, said your piece, then walked away for her to think about it. WOOHOO!! Good for you!

SMW


Hi SMW, coming from a woman that I did right is a feather in my cap thank-you.

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Originally Posted By: M from Tennessee
Originally Posted By: Racefan
Mini update...

No contact from W or from me to her throughout the day.
Interesting though I stopped at the drug store on my way home and come wheelin into the parking lot and whose car should be in the lot yes the W's car I'm thinkin oh the irony.

So I go inside and walk down a few isle's & there she is looking at magazines, so she looks up and is abit startled and then composes herself and gives me a nice strong warm hug (oh I love those) I say hi fancy meetin you here. For some reason she is abit nervous and starts doing what she always does which she finds something about herself to put down, well her favorite one is gettin on herself about her hair. Now to my W her hair is the most important thing in the world to her, but always the 1st to put down when she is uncomfortable. I let her ramble abit and then change the subject. Idle chit chat goes on and I say well I better get my stuff and get home to the dog, so she okay and gives me a hug goodbye, I say talk to you later.

I get my stuff and go walking out and she is still in the lot in the car, she rolls down her window I squat down and lean in the car and look her in the eyes and say your hair is beautiful she fumbles around and finally gets out thank you. As I was standing up I stick my hand in the window and caressed the back of her head and said don't be so hard on yourself you are a beautiful woman, have a good night and I will talk to you later.

Brian


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Does this pass for 'doing work'?

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Originally Posted By: Tomato
Hey Brian

Sounds like an interesting exchange between the two of you. It sounds like you handled it brilliantly. That's like the opposite of a 2X4. That should feel kind of strange to you. Good going brother. Keep the faith.


Ted...

Hardy har har! Hey man this is all a strange feeling, I am flying by the seat of my pants...

Faith is the only secure thing at this point brother

Thanks man

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Originally Posted By: Racefan

I get my stuff and go walking out and she is still in the lot in the car, she rolls down her window I squat down and lean in the car and look her in the eyes and say your hair is beautiful she fumbles around and finally gets out thank you. As I was standing up I stick my hand in the window and caressed the back of her head and said don't be so hard on yourself you are a beautiful woman, have a good night and I will talk to you later.

Brian


Oh my!....[Purple swoon]...can I give you my h's email/Phone number/address???

both for what you did and also for not reading more into her behaviour than you did.


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Originally Posted By: Racefan

I get my stuff and go walking out and she is still in the lot in the car, she rolls down her window I squat down and lean in the car and look her in the eyes and say your hair is beautiful she fumbles around and finally gets out thank you. As I was standing up I stick my hand in the window and caressed the back of her head and said don't be so hard on yourself you are a beautiful woman, have a good night and I will talk to you later.

Brian


Oh my!....[Purple swoon]...can I give you my h's email/Phone number/address???

both for what you did and also for not reading more into her behaviour than you did.



Hi Purple...

The 2nd woman to say I did okay, hope that means I'm on the right track well at least for today anyway LOL!

If you think it will help I would be more than happy to talk to him and try to get him to wake up.

I stopped by your thread and did some catching up and will post in the mornin.

Thanks for givin me a PMA boost

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Another little update...

W text me abit ago...

W: Sorry I was so discombooberated earlier I was just surprised to see you earlier, I was standin there lookin a Teen Magazines (for D11) I just didn't know what to say.
M: No need to apologize, like you said you were still in work mode totally understandable it was fine.
W: K
M: Surprises like that make the day all good
W: Well you did not look happy to me you looked sad
M: I'm always happy to see you! It was a long humid day & didn't get quite decompressed on the way back like I usually do.
W: Oh I see
M: So guess I was still a bit in work mode like you. How was the bike ride?
W: It was fine but D11 didn't really want to go, she complained the whole way, told her maybe she should not go for awhile then and she agreed.
M: Well that's good, you told her how you felt & she told you how she felt and you both agreed so that's a good thing.

Brian


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