Well.. he is gone for now... He will have seen his parents on this business trip... Can't help but wonder if he will tell them about the pending D.
I seem to have detached some...180's are easier to come by... Is this suppose to happen?
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I think I can understand how you feel about him telling his parents. I don't know about you, but when my W started telling her family about her wanting a D, it was a big thing for me. Felt like she was much more serious about having it happen than when she kept it to herself. Only solace I have is she, to my knowledge, has not told her Dad, only her sisters. However, that may just be because she doesn't have as close a relationship with him - although both of her sisters have told her she is making a big mistake. Guess that is one good thing when the WAS tells family members, they can hear they are making a mistake from someone other than the LBS.
The 180s are getting easier for me as well. I think they are starting to become somewhat of a habit now. I find myself communicating in a completely different way to my W then I did at the beginning of this awful journey. It has given me a bit more sense of calm actually. I'm not stressed out about why she isn't emailing me more, or calling on a regular basis. I guess to a certain extent I have lowered my expectations - trust me the bar is not that high right now and it doesn't take a lot for her to give me that "woo hoo" feeling . Take care.
. Take care.