H hates the word "affair," has consistently denied that there's "someone else" even tho I have email conversations that prove otherwise--and I think that saying the words, especially in a counseling situation, would force him out of the denial of what he's doing. He's told 1 or 2 friends that he has "reconnected" with an old friend--is that some new euphemism for intercourse or what?! Even if it's still an EA--and I doubt it at this point--it's still a factor in this whole situation.
Hoosier,
My wife HATED the "a-word." I don't think she ever did end up using it, although I was FINALLY able -- after 60 days -- to get her to admit the truth to her parents and our adult daughters about the nature of her relationship with OM. Me, I used the word "affair" liberally throughout, and never relented. Ever.
