She handled the money until she showed how irresponsible she was with it. I took it over and things improved until I found that she had secret charge cards. At that point I got my late FIL (also a CPA)involved and found out that had been misappropriating funds forever. She spends to cover her unhappiness and to satisfy her selfishness. We then bought her business and an open checkbook which I couldn't always monitor like I should and you can imagine what happened from there. I have no issues taking care of the money.
She doesn't want the burden of finances and just doesn't understand budgeting. She kicks a$$ at deficit spending though. I have yelled, screamed, ranted, explaind, begged, pleaded, cried, had interventions and it has very, very slowly started to improve. The problem is she attempts to but her happiness. I wish she wasn't so unhappy but her spending has caused most of it. What a vicious circle "we" are in. My financial advisor and best friend has advised to just make more than she can spend and I am, thank goodness. The problem is that I have a level of financial "comfort" that I am looking for. Her behavior isn't letting me find it as soon as I would like. The other issue is I don't want to feel like I have to buy my W nor do I want my kids to think that they should get everything they see just because we can afford it. She grew up that way and look how she turned out. All this may sound petty but if my practice didn't take off when it did we were sunk and like I said, I am still not financially comfortable.
She has put me under financial stress since before we were M. We had a fight a month before the W were I told her that she was just like her financial nightmare of a SIL. She said it would never be like that. Just another example of fortune telling skills. I have told her how so many things were going to turn out (especially financial) and she still won't follow my advice.
All 3 of her brothers are also CPA's too. Now that is funny. I guess she got the recessive gene, huh?
