HUGGGGS...I'm so sorry you're having a rough day. Rob is right as usual You do what's best for you and D4 and please don't let your H's plans deter you from what's best for you and D4. If moving a week early is the right thing, then take him up on it. If not, then do what is best and easiest for you. You H is a piece of work.. he leaves you in the dark for months and now that separation he forced in near, he has the nerve to cry to you about his lack of plans? About his DUI? He's still looking ahead to what's best for HIM and what will protect HIS interests and life. Please take note that he's interested in what you're doing in relation to how it effects him only. What about you.. what about D4?
I'm so proud of you that you have things together and know what you want.. are doing so well with the hand you've been dealt. You're AMAZING!! I don't know of anyone who's shown the grace you have in a situation like this. You're a classy lady Sue... don't forget that.
You do what's best for you and D4 and please don't let your H's plans deter you from what's best for you and D4. If moving a week early is the right thing, then take him up on it. If not, then do what is best and easiest for you. You H is a piece of work.. he leaves you in the dark for months and now that separation he forced in near, he has the nerve to cry to you about his lack of plans? About his DUI? He's still looking ahead to what's best for HIM and what will protect HIS interests and life. Please take note that he's interested in what you're doing in relation to how it effects him only. What about you.. what about D4? 
