I am trying to think of why she would be curious in a bad way...I can only imagine that as a positive.
That's a pretty good response too. But don't add the "if you want to"..its too open ended...maybe try "we can talk about it later, no worries" Yours was good on its own though...just a bit on the clingy side with the "if you want to" It sounds like you are trying to get her to say "yes"
Yes in almost any more is going to be hard to get out of her right now.
But well done...I think you are starting to get the idea..just bait her with a mature man who is doing interesting an exciting things that remain yet a mystery.
You likley dind't read about a 180 yet. What Michele advocates doing or at least trying, is doing the opposite of what you would normally do. If you would normally watch the hockey game when its one, go out for a walk in the garden or something...do something very different to shock her.
The shock is to wake her up a bit, get her attention, and to visibly demonstate that you are NOT the guy who hurt and dissappointed her before. We have to show her as quickly and effectively as we can that you are a NEW reborn person.
If you can think of some examples of habits or routines you had that were immature that you can switch to 180 degrees of what it was, build on that...toss them up here first if you want input.
Instead of watching TV, go for a jog Instead of lisening/watching a Hockey game, go for a nature walk Instead of staying home and laying about all day, go out to a play. Instead of drinking beer, start drinking juice. If you wear T-shirts and jeans, wear kakhis and a polo shirt.
The are superficial, but they will all contribute to catch her EYE and get her to take notice of what you are DOING with your life...going to church, coaching basketball, educating yourself on how to build quality marriages etc.
Are there any classes you can take or start to go to for couples or marriage skills building?
I think this would help you out a lot AND you could accidentally leave some notes or a book out for her to accidentally see.
If you Do leave something out for her to see by accident, don't hide it, but don't make a big deal if she shows curiosity...just act like its nothing out of the ordinary.
"Just a class I am takin, no big deal..its pretty cool actually...i am enjoying it."
Then change the subject :
"Did you want a drink or anything? I have some juice in the fridge" etc
