I am so happy for you in how the other night went, as a few woman on the board said to me sometimes this is a connection for females it gives them security and a feeling of being cared for. If anything it certainly is another form of communication.
I hope & pray that this is a new path for you & darling, as it has been said to me patience my friend patience. I agree with the others, I wouldn't offer the room & board just yet, let her broach the subject.
Take care and keep letting the Good Lord smile upon you...
I figure if I hug you, maybe the "stress relief" vibes will rub off. I will be spending many hours with my H tomorrow afternoon and evening and I want him to leave for three weeks thinking about me!
SMW, no matter what transpires between you and H tomorrow, I sure hope and will pray that it brings you closer to your eventual goal. Thanks for the hug.
Originally Posted By: SMW
So sorry about the car! UGH they can be such a pain. You could always take up biking everywhere??? Just kidding! I spent alot of time in PA as a kid and I know what the hills are like. My grandparents had a house up the Poconos that we stayed at for most of the summer and my great grandmother lived in Shenadoah until I was 10---we went to her house for Easter most years.
I was too much on "cloud nine" today to even have any concern whatsoever about the silly car. If I want to be able to go anywhere this w/e though I guess I will need to get it running again soon.
I have lived in PA all of my life and have driven and flown over almost all of the towns. Interesting that you mentioned Shenandoah. I know that place because DD15 lives at a foster home which is only minutes away from there. I was even considering moving in that vicinity to be closer to her but I instead am going to settle somewhere else near Allentown.
Originally Posted By: SMW
I agree with ST about your darling pulling back after getting the check. Do not take it personal, as most things rarely are. Things sound good for the two of you. I am glad that you are spending this time reconnecting with her.
The check is supposed to arrive any day now. I did not get a chance to look in my P.O. box for it today. And I haven't mentioned a word to my darling about receiving the notice that the check would arrive this week. Yeah, this time last night we were REALLY "reconnecting" :)!
Originally Posted By: SMW
God is in control, we are merely along to praise him and reveal his glory.
I received several calls from my darling today. She was very gracious and thanked me profusely for the intimate and passionate night that we enjoyed together. I talked to her in the evening and she wanted to know how my day was going. At that point I was a little annoyed at some unexplained charges on my checking acct. I thought that she might be able to provide some explanation about them so I asked her if she new about it. She at first said that she didn't. Then she wondered if it might have been an automatic monthly payment draft. I said no to that idea. Then she said that she might possibly have selected a payment method which had my acct # on file from when she used to be on the same acct. She said that if that were the case that it was an innocent mistake and was unintentional. I just held my tongue and listened throughout her explanation. A short time later she called me back and wondered why it seemed like I was in a down mood. She asked me if I enjoyed the previous night as much as she did. And I responded to her by telling her that just her mentioning last night brought an instant smile to my face and that it was great for me also.
My mind is somewhat troubled over a recurring problem. The problem is that my darling is associating with me in a secretive way as it concerns her family and her ex. It is as if fraternizing with me is considered to be shameful behavior that nobody must know about. Her D does have some knowlege that we continue to have some kind of ongoing R. I don't exactly know how she feels about it. But her D knows that her mom did not come "home" last night. The secretive stuff and the having to keep things hush hush is beginning to really irritate me.
Do you feel like she's embarrassed maybe ? What about it irritates you ?
Thanks for all your kind words to me. You're wonderful.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Do you feel like she's embarrassed maybe ? What about it irritates you ?
She may be embarrassed by her own decisive acts in finalizing a D to someone she still loves. I am still thinking of the ways she might be embarrassed. The part that iritates me is the keeping of secrets. I do not at all like acts of deception. She has been doing that for a long time. She seems to like having me join in on deceptive games she plays. I have never felt comfortable with being asked to propagate any lies, even "white" one's. And I think I have let her know this.
Originally Posted By: smartcookie
Thanks for all your kind words to me. You're wonderful.
You are deserving of them. You are more wonderful than all of us on here.
Honor and glorify the Lord. Walk in the straight paths provided lovingly by Him.
Another car-less day for moi. I am getting ready to walk down to the bus stop and make my way home for some zzzzzzzzz after walking the dogette. Then maybe I will get back to trying to troubleshoot what has my car in "statue" mode.
I have been wondering why it seems like that during my darling's mini-vacation over the last few days that she does not seem to have accomplished anything regarding an apartment search. SHe had told me at the beginning of the week that she would be making that a priority during her few days off. So I don't know if she is entertaining thoughts in her mind of maybe suggesting that she would be willing to move into one of the three rooms that I will have at my new apartment in a couple short weeks or not. I guess the next time I talk to her I will ask her what the latest is in her search for a place to live.
Then there is the "devil on the shoulder" bit going on with me also. I have occasionally wondered whether or not she really is not unhappy living at her ex's and just tells me that she is extremely unhappy living there. The only motivation for this far-fetched scenario as I see it would be that she could borrow money from me and then use it for purposes other than moving to a new place. Purposes like paying her ex back all the money that she owes from the numerous loans he has given her. I know it is not good to think these scenarios in my head and I will do my best to deal with only that which is right in front of me. The mind can and does concoct many outlandish scenarios if you do not reel it in and put a stop to it.
:)!