Rob is wise. Had H done what he agreed to by signing that document, the underwear wouldn't have been a problem. All of his stuff would be out of the house.
I would pile them on the front porch, sans baggie. One less in the landfill you know
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
glad you're doing well. It'd take H about 30 secs. to walk into a wal-mart and buy himself a pack of 10 undies. You aren't his mother. He was a big boy and he couldn't take care of himself so don't feel you need to go out of your way.
I know EXACTLY how good it feels when your house is your own. Of course I'm sure my W is saying that too. Anyway, never underestimate the stuff you can find at Ikea - it's cheap and looks good.
How's the guitar playing coming? I pulled out my guitar and also my fiddle and started trying to remember the stuff I used to play.
Oh I need to get back to playing my guitar. My guitar has been hidden in my car for the past 2 weeks. But tomorrow I plan on taking it out. I am turning one of the rooms in the house into a "Sara's hobby" room. Going to have my instruments and my scrapbooking stuff and computer in there.
This is the best! H calls and says that he needs some stuff out of the garage. I say alright. I unlock the garage and he is fumbling around in there for awhile, so I go outside to see if he needs help. I show him where I put his laptop. Then he tells me that he needs to get something he hid in the basement. I say, oh your porn? See...this whole porn thing was a HUGE issue when we were in MC. I felt like him hiding it was being dishonest but he would never tell me where he hid it except for "in the basement". I don't know how many fights we had over this. He stammers on about how he just needs to get it out of the basement. I say very nicely, "well you know I can't let you in the house. It is the law." He says that he will just run down to the basement really quick and grab it. Again I say, "I could get it for you if you tell me where it is, but I just can't let you into the house. It is the law, you know." HAHAHA!!!! So he ended up NOT getting it because even now he won't tell me where it is. So I am going on a "porn hunt" tomorrow. I swear I have searched that basement high and low for 2 years looking for it.
I then point out the box with his mail in it. He digs through it and I say, "see that brown envelope? That is the divorce decree." He doesn't say anything. He gathers up some bills of his. I again say, "that is the divorce decree in that box. You might need it." He didn't even look at it. I tell inform him that I am going to start writing "return to sender" on his mail because I don't have a forwarding address. He asks me how he can get his mail forwarded. I start to tell him and then I stop myself and say, "Wait...I'm not your wife anymore. You need to figure this out yourself." He tells me about his new apartment. It is brand new I guess and still getting painted and things and won't be ready until August 1. He says he is sorry that his things will have to stay in the garage until August 1. I tell him that is alright but I might need to charge him a storage fee. He doesn't say anything. I close up the garage and go back in the house.
It felt so good to finally be the one in control.
SAra
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I tell him that is alright but I might need to charge him a storage fee
Almost spit out some Diet Coke with this one!
I love Sara In Charge.
Let me know how the porn hunt goes. You know he is FREAKING out inside that you just didn't let him go and get it. He knows you'll look for it. Feel free to throw it away.
I can't wait to hear more about your hobby room! Yay!
And I love that he's being so dumb that he won't even tell you where the pron is. Like you even care at this point.
I know! And why on earth didn't he get the porn out of the basement earlier? Like I don't know....the day I filed for D or even the day he signed the decree? I can't believe after all of this he STILL won't tell me where it is hidden! Now I want to find it to know where this great hiding place is. And why can he hide that so well, but didn't do so well hiding his affair! LOL
The best was when I told him that it was "the law" that he couldn't go inside. I used his stupid line that he used millions of times on me back on him. Even though the law is that I can allow anyone I want into my house....I don't want him in there! LOL!
I might charge him a storage fee. The $11 he owes me.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I never did figure out what the deal with the panties in the baggies were all about. Some sexual fetish that I never knew about I guess?
When my mom and I were putting his clothes that he had on the bed into boxes. I noticed a shirt that was mine (the one that I typically have seen him wear) in the pile. I mention to her that she had given me that shirt and he has taken it over. She grabbed it up really fast and said. "I am taking it back. Even if it is used for a rag. At least he won't be wearing it!" LOL
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Well, if the porn was any good he wouldn't hide it too hard because he'd want to get it out easily, right? Maybe it's digital and it's just on one of those memory sticks or a dvd or something. That'd be easy to hide.
But i still just don't get it. you know him the best - how on earth could he just be starting to deal with stuff NOW?!?!
Can you play blackbird on your guitar? I used to be able to, but now I can't remember it. It's funny, though, how quickly you remember things if you can just get started ....
