i think they say that because right now, they probably are happier...no one to share things with (at least in my sitch) and that makes them happier. No conflict. Marriage represents pain to them.... why be married?
I think you're right. Especially when they are in a fog or in some kind of mental distress. AND if there is an OM then you can look at it like this:
It's that bliss of a new relationship. There's no drama, everyone is nice as pie to each other, extra careful to watch what they say because they are in the chase. There is new sexual tension, flirting, emotional needs are getting met, they are living out a fantasy etc. They can bitch about you and the OM will validate all their feelings and feed right into what they want.
They are back to life is good just like when you were dating except this time it;s with someone else.
How long will this keep up? Who knows. I guess until the regular drama starts coming back around into their new relationship... and it will. It's just a matter of time. This is where WE have a really hard time because we have no patience and are scared that our spouse will fall in love and forget all about us.
- Scott
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