Hey Tbone, This is the third time today I came back to your thread. I really didn't know what to say...
I think JJ is right ... time for Tbone to have a little R&R on his own right now.
I can relate to the resentment over her laziness as at the end of my last thread I felt very similar. Your W obviously still has some personal issues to work thru and her laziness is a symptom of those issues. Nothing more. Once I realized it was just a symptom and that I wanted to be supportive of her working thru her issues (low self-esteem & being unhappy), then I was able to tear up that scorecard and the resentment had gone away.
This may not be popular to you, but what your W decides to do with her business is her "business". She has to be true to herself as well as you need to be true to yourself. If she is no longer happy with her business, then maybe its time for her to get out and if that is her decision, then you will need to find it within you to respect that.
If I remember correctly, didn't you mention that you were an ex-model? I take it that it wasn't a good experience for you? So I can understand you not wanting to mingle with that crowd again, but what if your W persuing her dream turns her from the woman you don't want to be with into a happier, more confident person who wants to share all this with you? Of course, if she persues her dreams at the expense of M, then you will need to express what you are willing to live with and what you are not. Then it becomes her choice as to what direction is more important to take for her happiness.
Quite frankly I know those are tough words to live up to. I, myself, feel I'm about at that very fork in the road. Wonder if I can live up to my own advise here?
