Man, can I ever relate to what you're feeling. There can be such a let-down after all the hard work you've done, that things ain't quite where they need to be. Is it setting your expectations too high? Maybe. But it would be awful nice to have a better return on your investment sometimes!
Don't feel bad though, my friend. I think that anyone who has come as far as you have has gone through the same feelings. If they haven't, they've probably either just been fooling themselves, or they belong in the "DB Hall of Fame"!!
What have you been doing lately to take care of yourself? Not the family, not the R, but just "tbone"? How much extra effort have you been putting into the R lately, that you feel isn't worth it? How much extra are you doing around the homefront that you might not really NEED to do? Things that you might be able to "drop the rope" on?
On a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being the pits, how would you rate things now compared to what they were 2 years ago? 1 year ago? 6 months ago? You can do this with both your relationship, and your personal life.
How might you be able to bump things up even just half of a point, in either or both areas?
You deserve a break today, my friend! Stepping back out of the situation usually helps me to get a better look at things. Make sure you get some recreation time in for yourself, to help "re-create" yourself! I know that for me, those feelings of resentment take on a life of their own, and just keep feeding on themselves, and get pretty hard to control.
I'll be back in a bit. I need to go take a dose of some of my own advice now!!
JJ
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