Hi tbone,

Sorry to see you back here (well, you know what I mean!). In the not too distant past I found much comfort in your words on the threads of others (someone here in piecing, and your thoughts on "snooping" over in Infidelity). I went back and read your then most recent thread and really appreciated your wise words.

So...what's changed that you're now keeping score again? Have you both just slipped ever so slightly back into some old patterns? It seems to me from my own sitch that even the tiniest misstep back into "more of the same" can get us into a cycle that last FAR longer than the misstep warrants.

Have you regressed a bit in the changes that you made re. DB?

All that being said, maybe "anger, resentment and frustration" in an occasional cyclic pattern is not totally unnexpected? Perhaps this is just par for the course? I'm not trying to minimize any of the above emotions just wondering if riding it out (venting here, kicking the crap out of a punching bag, etc) is enough?

Sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.