SC! you are a pro at CBT thats for sure- it is still our amygdala that holds onto the fear based motivations in our brains- thats a hard tiny price of our brain that reminds us of all our fight or flight modes- so even though you have grown and change beyond belief- it will recall events form the past and trigger this behavior. fun stuff being human!

thanks for your reply to me- i met with my H yesterday and it went very well. i have no need to be cold to him. but i have done a HUGE 180 and not brought up R and he is pursuing me...and opening up big time and acknowledging all the things he did that were not good for us...

you can hit me with whatever you want! i love your input.

take care and have fun with your H! how long has he been gone? what are your "plans" with him tonight??!! he he

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