Our parents have been awful. Angry, confrontational, judgemental. I have never known stress like it. Dealing with the split seems nothing compared to the wrath we have faced from them. His mum accused both of us of being very inconsiderate and uncaring in the way we have communicated with them. Little do they know the lengths I am going through to protect them all from the hurt and shock of the truth.
I can't believe his family could be so cruel. We have told them that this is a joint decision which we both agree is the best for us (absolutely, 100% true) and they all blame H... for what? We're not sure.
I completely understand how you feel. But I can also understand, if they don't have a single clue as to the truth, that they would naturally assume that you guys are making a selfish decision, because they have no idea of the pain or problems in your relationship.
Have you said something like that to them--"We're trying to protect you and our children from the pain of what we have gone through, so just please trust that this decision is not made lightly in any way, in fact this is the hardest thing we've ever dealt with. We are hurting and very much need your support."?
Their anger at your H sounds like intuition. Do they have any clue that your husband was abused?
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
