Another one liner that works:

"Is there anything I can do to help you?"

They will tell you if they need help. Most of the time, they will say no. They don't want fixing. Say less...listen more and before you DO respond...think again.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;