Rob-

I'm just confused and have been doing a lot of crying today. I was on the phone with a friend in tears and a big group of people gathered around my desk....as I sit right outside the VP's office. I had to to my best to hide my tears.

I think it's natural to see the OW as a villian. That being said, I do see that she's a clearly lost soul. I'm glad the her H is seeing the positives in his situation. As much as I hate to admit it, I KNOW that I had the same feelings about my H that she has about hers. The feelings that for a long time I couldn't communicate with him, the feeling of not feeling truly loved and feeling confused because I loved him but really had the little guy in the back of my mind asking if I should walk....or in other words, be the WAW. I could just never get myself to do it. I'd break down each time I thought about it because I loved him too much. I don't think I'd be able to talk to or stomach ever seeing OW again, but as hard as it is to admit, I do understand her feelings.

I'd do anything to just go home right now, dig a hole, crawl in and hope that when I crawl out life is rosey & sweet!

SueS


ME: 42, H: 42, D6
Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs.
Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009
Status: Working on it day by day