It's easy when we hurt to quickly turn our attention to the party that offended us and say, "Don't you know how much you me?" Believe me, they know. What's hard for us is to realize how much pain, guilt, and searching for answers they're also going through.
I admire your perservance, and truly, your wife is indicating she wants to have a relationship with you. Her actions do speak VOLUMES. Build on that.
So often, we forget that forgiveness is a great part of love. It's even harder to say, "Forgive them for they know not what they do," though they do know. Inside, they do know. Because even though they can say, "you drove me to this, it is really, their choice, and their action."
Anyway, Kevin, take some time to heal yourself. To work through the anger and pain you feel. And, take some time to recognize your wife, too, feels a great pain. And remember, she feels a desire to be with you. Build on that.
Speak softly to her, extend her grace, and by your actions and words, extend to her the gift of love.
Like others, I wish you all the best. It's hard to know someone who said they would be faithful to us, would give themselves away, heart, soul, and mind. It does anger us. I know. Even though I've forgiven my wife, for several affairs, of which amazed her, I still hurt and get angered over it. We can forgive. It is hard, though, to forget.
Remember, you're the key to unlock her love for her, and develop a really dynamic, loving relationship. But do, Kevin, take time to grieve and heal your pain, as well as understand hers, and do what you can to build her up. Do Right
