Guilty as charged.. I am a WAW.

[Bridgestone]

IMHO you H has not woken up to the fact that he has contributed to the problems in your M.

Funny thing is..
If you'd ask him why we separated (as the counselor did on Saturday) he'll tell you "Because I was verbally abusive" Now granted this is the only time I have heard him admit that to anyone but me. He can talk the talk.

He 'owns it' in his words, I'm just not seeing a change in new actions under conditions that he gets angry and frustrated and hurt.

He belives that you are the problem not him.

He has repeatedly made statements lately (hear sarcasm in this tone)... Oh sure, here we go again.. the ONLY problem in the room is "H's name". Like you are sooo perfect."

He is lashing out at you and not doing his homework because in his mind he is not the problem.

uh.. mmm... and here I thinking all along that it was because he didn't care enough about 'us' or me to do it.

JMO but again he sounds like where I was over a year ago. Hopefully a train hits him and he wakes up like I did.

This is a year after I have left. This is progress for us believe it or not. Well, maybe it's progress for me... I never would have had the guts to share my feelings & thoughts in the room, because of some of his changes, my increase in self-confidence, and having my own 'safe' place to retreat to when things go badly.

What was your 'train'?
thanks for keeping up & your perspective.

Bridge