Oh, I'm sure we could come up with something, if we stuck our heads together. You may not be able to STOP him from going, but there's nothing that says we have to let him HAVE A GOOD TIME!
Let me know some of the ground rules, years of being an flight attendant, trying to ensure a good trip was had by all has worked against me. I want to be a pilot now.
Leaving him something in his suitcase that -- once opened at his destination -- would totally ruin his time.
Plumbing leaks at his place while he's gone would serve the purpose just as well, as would a host of other ideas. The idea is to interject SOMETHING that is going to ruin their little "special time" together, and make YOU the topic of all of their conversation, instead of EACH OTHER.
I don't know if I could stomach the plumbing leak in his place since it's really all my furniture, etc. in there & it was me that remodeled it years ago. So it would feel too much like hurting myself.
He'll be packing at the last minute & heading to her place, so I don't know what I could put in there.
I did make copies of all the e-mail asking me out, telling me he wants to work it out, etc., but I don't know if it makes it worse exposing those to OW. It would probably make her hold on tightly, p*ss him off, & make me look bad. At least that's what I've gathered.
He just left yet another VM, telling me he'll be over about 5pm to pick up S5 & nephew.
I hadn't planned on being here, leaving S16 here for the P/U & letting him wonder what my thoughts are.
Just can't think of many tactics right now. Guess I'd make a lousy terrorist.
When he comes over, just look him in the eyes, and say as ominously as you can "Have a safe trip. We need to meet as soon as you get back and unpack; there's something I need to discuss with you, and it's important."
And leave it at that. Basically a grown-up version of "Young man, just WAIT 'til your father gets home!"
Alternate version:
Look him dead in the eyes and say "I HOPE you're not going on this trip with your girlfriend. That would be incredibly disrespectful to me, our marriage and our family."
Either way, the idea is to have them talking about YOU -- even if it's unflattering (and it will be) -- their entire time, instead of about fun fantasy.
Puppy has some great ideas! I like the first best though...
Is there anyway to leave something of yours on him or his clothes. I sprayed my XHs sweater with perfume in hope that the chasing skank might wear it and wonder why it smells like me.
Little things that he can't pick up on.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
The only problem with that is that he keeps her in the dark....I wouldn't be mentioned at all. She believes that he only picks up S5 & drops him off, & he's not going to do anything to dispel that myth.
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Look him dead in the eyes and say "I HOPE you're not going on this trip with your girlfriend. That would be incredibly disrespectful to me, our marriage and our family."
I already told him this (adding I would file if he did, which I would have left out now) on Sunday.
Lying about his flight & letting me know he doesn't have to explain anything to me, lets me know all I need to know, otherwise he would have no reason to lie. Maybe he thinks I would show up at the airport if I knew, who knows.
So, I plan on enforcing the conseqences, although taking my time on filing...could take many months to get stuff together.
