Guilty as charged.. I am a WAW.

[Bridgestone]

Hi Forrest.Thanks for stopping by.

C. asked me what it was like to have H just listen. I said it was weird. He asked me why and H interrupted and said, because I always interrupt her. The counselor said, oh really?

I can't remember exactly what he said. I'm much better at his non-verbals.. he had his nervous laugh, his toe scuffing the floor action, hands crossed behind his back. Something to the effect of

"I'm terrible at just listening" "I almost always jump in (or interrupt - can't remember he's exact word usage here) before she's done"

I am assuming he was on the mat.. and he was blaming you for his actions.. or did you two start back and forth communication again?

He was on the mat talking & had worked his way around the wheel with his thoughts, emotions, actions, etc. then when I checked what he meant (giving it back to him) is when he kept butting back in and defending what I was giving back to him.

So I retried again re-stating what I had heard him say, and so on & so forth.

It was at some point along there that he gave me the 'the only reasons I lied about the phone calls to Scott about the tickets was to see what you would do when you found out about them".

I had asked him Sunday, if he had seen Scott about the tickets to a band that is playing nearby this week-end.
He included in his 'action' statement that:

You had asked if I had 'seen' scott on Sunday & i hadn't, I had "talked" to him on the phone.. so I really wasn't lying.. it was just answering the question exactly as you had asked it. It was just omission.

So I checked again: "So do I understand you to say that your lying was deliberate to see how I would react? and that you understood what I was asking when I asked about seeing scott for the tickets and you choose to omit that you had talked to him on the phone.

He said yes, and that's when I said I was not in this to play games and that's when I left.

Thanks for any insight. I'm nearing the end of my rope with this and we haven't even started 'dealing' with the really hot topic issues of the R.

Other things are OK. Getting S ready to head off for college, working with my foster dogs, and on things for school is keeping me busy.
I have not seen the other person back on since I had nudged you about him.. so you maybe be able to cross that one off your list of 'to-do's!

Peace
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