But you know she makes him feel good and appreciated, loved. You could do that.
What do you think you could do in that line?
This is what I am trying to do... He lives here still, although sleeps in another room. I ask him how he slept, I wish him a good day, I ask him how his day was when he gets home, I praise him when he mentions something good that happens and thank him for the least little things he does. I also still do his laundry and make his lunch (I'm a SAHM so I consider this part of my "job") and try to put a positive spin on every interaction we have, no matter what.
Also, he recently restarted pursuing his old hobby of photography, which he had given up for years... I ask him to share his photos, praise his pictures, I even recently helped get one published and possibly have hooked him up for more to be published in the future. I try to encourage him on this hobby, although it is taking time away from my D and that is hard... Although I'm sure this is what the OW is doing -- making him feel great that he is a talented photographer and so creative! But if he needs to fulfill that need, I want him to know I can do it here without him having to look to other people...
I'm hoping this is enough because I'm not sure how much more I can do right now in our situation, which is basically absolutely no "R" talk -- he wants his space, wants be alone, yet he's online at night constantly with this OW chatting -- which clearly isn't being alone!
So this is what I've done.
M 39 H 34 D 6 M almost 8 years T 11 years Bomb: 6/5/08
