Getting Off the Rollercoaster!

[addie]

Thank you for your support dear (((((friends))))).

I actually heard from H 3 times last night. First he called and was apologetic for what has happened over the last several months; said he doesn't know how he could have allowed anything like that to happen; said he doesn't know how he could have been so duped by someone; acknowledged again that he needs counseling; doesn't know if he can heal from this; said that he realizes that I would have supported anything he wanted to do, etc...
I listened to what he had to say; I was pleasant and positive; I didn't bring up anything else. I was about to thank him for opening up to me but he had arrived at his destination (he was driving) and had to get off the phone. He said we would continue the conversation later.

He called again late when I was asleep. Repeated some of the same things, told me to never believe that I am his backup plan - that he would NEVER think of me in that way and that he never wants to hear me say that again. He said he misses me alot and that he is very lonely - I told him I do miss him too. He then asked if I would consider flying out there with S for a couple of weeks. I told him I would have to think about it.

Later on he sends me an email saying he realizes he's been a total fool, that he was totally duped. Again he says he is very lonely and depressed (first time he's acknowledged this) and that he needs to find a way to see me and S and signs off
Love, H (which he's only done a couple of times in the last 8 months).

At the same time, he is still trying to get together with OW inviting her to all sorts of things and she keeps putting him off. SIGH!!!