The thought that has been going through my head: IS this how LBS act when the WAW comes back? Is my agreeing to go to counseling for communication enough of an inroad to him that he now gets to 'let down' on the changes he had showed me he had made?
I'd say no. At least, from the sitches I've read and my own experience. When MWD talks about it, it's in the context of the betrayal of infidelity, i.e. once the A is over the LBS has to deal with the feelings of betrayal. I'd think that when there's been no infidelity, the LBS realizes things weren't working and now it's time to work hard to turn the R around. That doesn't mean "letting down." Look at smartcookie's H - that's how I'd imagine it. that's how I was 9 years ago when W and I got back together. Sure, things weren't perfect, but we were both trying and working on it and trying to understand what the other needed.
Originally Posted By: lodo
he just gave his usual exasperated 'huff' and said.. "just like everything else I touch, it gets 'f'ed' up."
It's still all about him. He's got some waking up to do. In a big way.
