I have the same question... One month ago I've found out about my husbands EA. My instincts told me something was wrong from the very first month (last year July).
When I confronted my husband he denied everything and reacted very angry. We have not talked about it (yet). I didn't cry...mostly I am still shocked, angry and disgusted...
We agreed never to have secret affairs, we do go to swing clubs and I thought that would be a nice extension of our sexlife. I am European and very open minded, I love to watch porn, I love to (s)experiment, I love sex, so I would never have imagined my husband to cheat on me...
At first I thought it was my fault, but it's not! I can't deal with all the lies he told me.. I have flashbacks of moments when he preferred to be with her, he even went on nice trips with her, bought her nice presents, wrote to her "I love you for ever".
He also wrote (chatting to a male friend) very nasty about me and her, so I forwarded it to her, so she never wants to see him again...
I just wonder WHY??? Will it happen again? What does our relationship mean to him? Does he respect me?
Pfffffffff... I need time and we need to talk about it, but he wants to burry it and continue just like that...
