Hope4us struggle, part 7

[Hope4us]

Thanks WDID...that really helped. I KNOW you are right but I've just become a victim of too high of expectations that after last weekend we'd move right on to the next step, which to me is her saying she really wants to work on the marriage.

Puppy, I agree with you on the lack of introspection, but it could be that I just don't see it and she has thought about things. I mean, there have been a number of times I've seen her crying at odd times and in her own way, I do think she's trying. Especially since two weeks ago when S16 told her he wanted to move, with or without her.

The books are out on a coffee table in the family room. She may have picked them up some judging by where they were when I last saw them at that point and where they were the next time I saw them. But she hasn't mentioned them.

I agree I'll need to reconfront her. Define soon? I still think I'm going to stick with my plan to let her further WD and just be the best person I can be while slowly engaging her more and more in couples stuff and if things haven't changed by our couples trip in Oct, then that's the time to confront. I've talked about the timing with S16 as he wants to move NOW and we've both agreed that we could accept that timing.

The last couple days have been hard for me because of my expectations. And last night, W getting quiet is almost a good sign to me that she's thinking about stuff.

And this morning I got in another great AOS. W TM'd me at 7:00 saying she took my car to work because her's had a flat. So I went home (I only live 10 minutes from work) and took the tire to get repaired and then on my lunch, picked it up and put it back on the car. I KNOW she appreciates stuff like this, even if she won't admit it to me. She's made comments before about the enabler GF's BF not taking care of stuff like that for her so I know it has an impact.

Thanks guys, you really snapped me out of my slump. Back to the chase!