I am trying to follow your lead since it looks like (hope I don't jinx it!) I am headed into piecing...
Lack of patience, lingering resentment, mistrust, they are all there. But my H is here, too, by my side in bed every night. Playing with the kids before bed. Calling from work.
I agree with you things will never be the same again. But I hold out hope that maybe somewhere down the line they will be better than before? I flip-flop often between being glad H has me on the list at all to being outraged that he hasn't put me at the top after "all I have put up with". That road is not a fun one to go down...
Glad to hear you had a good time in DR. Sorry you have caught a bug, though. Thinking of you...