describe chalenging sitch: We have been S for 6 mo. H asked to spend the night.
action oriented terms how I handled this: He'd brought clothes and set them in entry way. Prior to this when he asked it was spur of the moment and I encouraged him to go home. I agreed this time.
Partner response: He was happy and seemed pleased with the answer. Then we went on our planned date for the evening.
Partner response several days later: He is getting very possessive. So, since control is an issue, I'm gonna have to re-think. I like H around but I want this to last....
