how to rebuild a friendship with my W and learn how to trust again without heading down a cheeseless tunnel.
Describe in action-oriented terms how you handled the situation:
I did ok. It's hard to db when you're attacked over and over again with your faults consistently pointed out. I try to validate. My W said that I stopped bringing her flowers and signing my cards so I surprised her and gave her some flowers and a card. I also thanked her for helping me with my project for my church to show I appreciated it.
Describe your partner's immediate reaction: confusion. I think she's wondering if my changes are real. I regress ocassionally but I try to be understanding. I'm sorting out my own pain and hurt and I informed her of that.
Describe your partner's reaction several days following the situation:
silence. sorting it out. When I dno't speak she speaks when I do speak we may/may not end up in a cheeseless tunnel.
So i'm going dark again. I'm going to focus on what I need to focus on to make it. Try to have fun and enjoy life.
