Way to go. Talk about GAL! I'm doing the wave here, woo hoo!
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Hey Red. Keep us posted on the house hunt. H wasn't sure about the house I wanted, either. But I wanted it, so I bid on it. And I got it. Now he says it is "nicer than he expected". And he is (pretty much) living here. So who knows?
I moved forward on getting a place for me and the kids b/c it was what I wanted. H realized I was serious and was truly planning for my life without him in it. That shook him up. Don't get a house just for that reason, but I know you aren't anyway. Point is, look for a house that is good for YOU. Get what YOU want.
Hey BbJ, that's a pretty cool story. Red, you already know that there are good logical reasons for what you're doing. Trust in yourself, I'm confident that you'll make a wise decision.
Good afternoon everyone. My real estate agent friend was impressed with the house. The only thing that hasn't been updated is the windows. He took me to look at another house which had huge bedrooms but was butt ugly. Nothing has been updated in the house since it was built in the 80s. I am going to put in a bid tomorrow on the one that we like. Cross your fingers!
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Grr...H was driving me nuts. I told him I was going to bid on the house, told him the other one we looked at (that cost more) was crap. He said yeah, but you can fix it up how you want. Never mind that I wouldn't have money left to fix it up. Then he was emailing me other ones that cost less, saying that I would have the money to do what I want with them. The house that I like is move in ready, everything has been replaced in the last year except for the windows. The kitchen alone was probably 50 or 60K. I could spend the rest of my life in that room. Tonight I asked H if he thought I shouldn't bid on it and pointed out why I thought I should. He agreed with me so I don't get why he was pushing the other houses.
On another note, I took D10 to see her T. She has not been there in about 7 weeks. D did not want to go and has been upset that I was making her go. She has refused to talk to me or D15 when she tries to talk to her. The T ended up coming to get me after 15min and the three of us talked. D finally opened up to me a little and is going to think about going back with H. That would be interesting.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
I started signing my life away today and place a bid on the house that the Ds and I love. I should hear something tomorrow...I don't expect it to go through at the starting bid, but it won't hurt to try.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Good Luck Liz, You never know what might happen. I so want you to get this house!! I am glad your D finally got to open up a bit. It t akes time for them too. You are their strength now, don't forget that. Love K
