when I was truly lost, I asked some of the men to read a synopsis of what had been going on. Talking about getting perspective I never imagined. (Gypsy)
That's what I was looking for Puppy, thanks for giving me yours.
You're right, what has been missing is the real, sustained enforcement of firm boundaries.
Last year he took me out for our anniversary, this year he leaves in 2 days to take OW on a vacation for it. Not too difficult to connect the dots on that one, just wished I had gotten it together & enforced the consequences of his actions earlier.
No time like the present, especially when I'm feeling strong, smart & sexy......unlike I had been feeling before, especially the 1st few months.
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I think it's time for you to think about what your "dealbreakers" are, and re-confront your husband
Actually, I just expressed last week that going on a trip w/OW was a "deal breaker", I guess that's why he lied about where he's departing from & who he's going with.
So now we're right on pattern with 3 e-mail yesterday, twisting it around w/ a little spin & 5 phone calls with the 1st VM wanting to know if I got his e-mail. Uh, you mean the one that confirms you lied about leaving from Mexico? What could he be thinking!
Probably that I want to R so badly that I'll pretend I don't understand & let him off the hook so he can have a nice, relaxing trip w/ his affair.
At this point my view of him is so diminished, I have no trouble letting him sit in his own chit.
Such a shame, to give up your family.
Puppy, I love that you can put it all together in two short paragraphs, an awesome guy thing!
Oops, my 1st H call of the day, wanting me to call him to confirm he's taking both S5 & nephew(11) with him for the night tonight, & to please call him, preferably this morning.
Nope, he can just sit there in it, he knows he'll have S5 for sure...there's no need to verify my nephew.
