Brian, I think the above was the problem this past week. You saw something on the phone bill, you used common sense and logic to form an assumption. Your mind raced. It caused that above.
Brian, the times you feel lost and don't know what to do, dial my work or cell number. I can't tell you what to do but I can listen. I'm sure Ian will tell you the same. Panic, assumptions, trying to use common sense and logic none of that works.
Ian is right. His post are correct. I have been where you are. I don't think your W is doing this "just to play nice". I think if you continue on with what your doing, (hell Brian, your W has told you what she needs)..Just do it. You can't be afraid anymore, you can't walk on eggshells..you need to let the real Brian out. The Brian we see here. Turn his ass loose.
All the "no contact" by your W could have been from her side hurting. You can't assume things. You can't let your mind race. You can't waste time chasing ghosts.
I can't offer up much more than Ian has said. He knows his chitt. Listen and learn. Step outside your head and just "let go"
Like I said before..don't F this up. If you act DAM you will F this up. Drop the DAM, toss him to the side.
Show her, your W, YOU, the real Brian, set him free.
You can do this. Put it in your head. You can do this.
Do it need to bring BBJ over here to do a cheer and shake her Pom Poms??
Come on brother, suck it up, there's work to be done.
Hey Brother...
I am slowly learning that logic does not play a roll when it comes to affairs of the heart, very tough for a DAM to admit when this is how we a wired.
I appreciate the offer and am sure we will be talking again on the phone if nothing else but to shoot the sh*t!
I understand if I keep letting fear and assumption run my course I will defeat myself being a DAM it is hard to deal with feelings you have never used before. Everyday I learn something new that takes me one step closer to myself trying to undo 45 yrs of thinking one way is a slow process if you truly are trying to make the changes.
