Brian, let me tell you something my friend. A wife who doesn't give a crap about you, doesn't care if you are upset or short. She doesn't call to make sure you aren't mad at her either.
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Well I raised my voice abit and said WHOA, I said let me explain something here, I was not upset (really I wasn't was good to hear her voice) I said I know how your side can do that to you and if anything my voice inflection was out of concern cause I know there is nothing I can do to make it better. I also know that when you are in pain the last thing you want to do is make nice so yes I did get off the phone quickly out of respect not out of anger.
Great response Brian. She knows you care and you just told her without directly saying it that her health is your concern. You also used the word respect which is great. She needs to hear that because right now she is having huge concerns that you do not respect her because of her choices, great job adding that in there.
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She just called back a few minutes ago to tell me something else and seemed fine
Her subtle way of letting you know you done good pal. This says to me, that she understands what you said and wants you to know that you and her are ok to talk. Very good.
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She truly sounds wiped out from it and I do know how it affects her, her pain is mine.
Sometimes I hate reading your stuff. I like to think of myself as a somewhat manly man, but reading this, and understanding the love that you have for your wife, and getting it that this is a prime example of a husband carrying his love and the marriage for his wife. Good tears Brian, very beautiful that you have her so deeply entrenched in your heart.
Ian
Ian...
This makes sense, if somebody disliked you are even hated you why would they take the time to make a point.
I may have not always liked or agreed with her decisions that she has made, but like with anybody you respect them for standing for what they feel right or wrong in the decision.
I take this board very seriously, this is no joke to me, sometimes I think after I post something that maybe it comes across as I am trying to paint this perfect picture of me, nothing could be farther from the truth. I am no saint, I have my faults and have made my share of mistakes in my M I admit when I have done something wrong as well as when I post about things that are very raw for me because you have all shown me a side of myself that got lost. When I post of the feelings that I have for my W these are not embellished to sound good these are true & real she truly is entrenched in my heart and soul, I'm not sure that I could ever love as deeply as I do now.
