Yes, Puppy, he knows I know, although he tries his best to make it seem that they may have broken up.
Then I do think you need to set -- and ENFORCE -- some firm boundaries. Because once you get to this stage (the "He's having an affair, I KNOW he's having an affair, he KNOWS that I know and I've even CONFRONTED him about him having an affair"), and no real consequences kick in, then BOTH partners rapidly lose respect for each other, and the betrayed spouse (YOU!) also love a ton of self-esteem at the very time that you need to be doing everything you can to build yourself UP.
I think it's time for you to think about what your "dealbreakers" are, and re-confront your husband. He's flaunting his affair under your nose, and he thinks you'll never do anything about it.
