"As I have come to a more valid understanding of my role, it has become easier to let go of the desire for H to 'understand', and for me to 'justify' my position. Does that make any sense?"
That makes MORE than any sense. Do I love the days when I feel like that.. things just whoosh off the waterslide.
I keep forgetting it comes down to me.. memememe... in all that is good, prickly and growing.
