It's not always easy to find past threads. Can you put a precis here to help us out?
My own sitch: H left 24.11.05 having an A with a 22yr old H ditched this girl 2 weeks after leaving me H met current OW 19.12.05 6.1.06 we ML for last time 15.1.06 H took current OW out for first time he stayed over and has never left since (although she now lives with him) 28.4.06 H moves into his own flat. OW moves in 3 weeks later 04/06 H asks OW to marry him. He didn't tell us 2.7.06 Our wedding anniversary. D18 (then 16) discovers Hs engagement and phones to tell me. I am out of town visiting a friend for the first time in 20 years at the time. Aug 06 H falls out with D18 (then 16) and doesn't speak to her for 12 months. June 07 H starts legal process rolling and expects me to agree to D. I won't so he threatens to file based on my unreasonable behaviour. Letters go backwards and forwards for last 12 months. He now has no contact with me whatsoever. I'm not allowed to contact him on his mobile, he doesn't respond to emails and OW answers phone at his flat. April 08 S15 moves in with H after I sent him there for a week as punishment (I had come to the end of a very long tether with his behaviour) July 08 H stops maintenance payments without warning. Financial security literally hinges on S15 coming back to live with me. Today looking for a 3rd job to be able to keep a roof over my kids heads.
Do I want a D? No. Do I need a D? Probably
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
