I finally moved out of my moms and into my own place. We went to the court mandated mediator since STBX will not budge on some things. I think it sucks that child support dosent take into consideration overtime & bonuses. H's bonuses especially at the end of the year have been as high as $6000.00!
If u guys remember, I dont have an attorney & I had signed our agreement a year ago in which I waived over my rights on just about evrything (dumb, I know) I then didnt seek any advice and was just ready to get it over with. I didnt ask for any alimony or any of his 401K. SInce then I learned my rights and changed my mind.
The mediator seperated us into different rooms and went over each page. She asked me if I wanted any alimony and if I knew his attorney would tell him to take it(only asked for $100 a month for 3 years) I would of asked for more and then worked myself way down. I figured it will cover my health insurance premium @ work. I asked the mediator if STBX argued it & she said he barked a little & then his attorney told him to take it.
I still wished for more CS, but I am glad it will cover my rent and some of my utilities.
STBX still wouldnt let go of his 401K so we have to return to pre trial for ONLY that. People tell me he will prolly lose on that, God I hope so. His 401K is his 'baby'. I asked for the standard 50%. I dont have enough on my retirement (not had it long enough).
All is good though. Life is terrific right now.
Question- to those who have kids and share summer vacations in the same state or local area-
How do u do it? At first STBX asked for 4 weeks(per our agreement, I forgot it stated that) but I didnt want to be seperated for so long from them so I said two weeks. I will get them on my regular schedule weekend(this weekend). Is this how it is normally done? STBX says he will need the break and asked me twice to make sure I was getting them. My mom thinks its dumb why not let him have them for the enitre two weeks. I dont know, but next year I will definatley let him have them for the entire 4 weeks. I am actually enjoying my free time, especially not having to make three stops to drop them off before going to work, plus I'm still unpacking.
OH.. and he still trying very hard to score sexually w/ me??? I guess the dog in him will never die.
