One thing I have heard a lot - and it will help you. Believe none of what she says and half of what she does. This will help you in that you will not take what she says so personally. It will be hard - I understand - I am living it as well.
Her actions will speak louder than her words. And according to Puppy and other, that is what to "listen" to.
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No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.