1. STOP arguing with her. PERIOD 2. Don't criticize her when she says something, just IGNORE it. 3. Don't tell her what was out of line, ignore it. Let it go, she's TRYING to HURT YOU. 4. She IS miserable...shes HIGH on her ADDICTION right now.
You need to trust us here, she does have a LOT of hurt in her, she's buried it because she can't stand it, and she's using her affair to HIDE it from you and her...its like drugs and as long as she's in contact with OM she's on that drug and can't feel the pain she has in her...UNTIL she talks to YOU...THEN it comes OUT as ANGER and HATRED.
