thank you for the fast replies everyone.....she has promised the OM will not be near our house, and I am still honoring my half of the mortgage because I care for the whole family even though i'm hurting. IF she is hurt as everyone here says, she is damn good at hiding it, she comes across to me as sitting on top of the world because of OM. ("happier than i ever was with you") these are low low blows she's dealing, all because I won't grant the divorce. So when I talk to her again, I say I was out of line, and I want to be friends ? i made it clear marriage is a commitment whether its in front of God or a judge (we got married by the mayor) Still, I told her, God was watching that day. I asked how she could spit in the Lord's face by breaking a commitment like marriage if she was a self proclaimed "good christian"
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
