She' KNOWS you are vulnerable and she wants to hit you where it hurts to get you to cut her lose.
As for the drugs. I think you need to show some remorse about that. And STOP calling her a hypocrite. That is NOT a mature way to handle that ok?
Sorry, but your posts are reading a bit immature here. I know you are angry and hurt, but aiming for maturity here will keep you sane and avoid depression.
Name calling, throwing threats out, trying to make others miserable, being critical...THAT stuff will make you immature and miserable...don't fall prey to that.
Its all from the same source in you, you have to resist it. The problem is NOT OM exclusively here..its YOU.
She needs to see a mature person. I would even suggest you keep paying the mortgage even if you aren't living there...it might KEEP her living there instead of with OM. It would also score you some points with the wife. Consider it.
But let her know if he ever goes near that house you won't pay it anymore. That's your boundary. I am NOT sure on this one, maybe pdt can offer some suggestions there. But I am trying to find the most mature response for you so we can score you some points here.
What about all your friends and her friends...are they all supporting you instead of her?
You need to think about doing what will bring her CLOSER not further away. I think if you stopped paying the mortgage you would just drive her into the OM's home. Maybe that's a good thing...it may wake her up to reality...Puppy any comments here on this point? I think this is a critical one.
I think telling her something like "I want my son living in OUR home, so I will pay the mortgage for the two of you so you both can live there until we find out what is going on. But I don't want OM anywhere near that house or that deal is terminated. I think this is the most mature way for me to care for my family."
I think something like that would do...still working on it.
Again, stop talking to her about your relationship...she is jus tgoing to throw walls up and try to beat you up. It's all garbage from her misery. In time it will calm down...usually six months or less.
