Another one joins the flock (Part II)

[Mike85]

na:

None of the friends that called me are or have been close to my w, except for one, and even she was my friend for years before either of us ever met my w. None of the friends have spoken to, or will speak to, my wife. Not out of nastiness, but because they were, and have always been, more "my" friends.

Yes, I'm learning in whom to confide. I'm avoiding the issue with friends who believe that I should hire a vicious shyster and attack my wife nine ways to Sunday, taking the kids and the cash. This group, unfortunately, includes my parents. They all fall into the group who feel bad for me and want my pain to end. They don't get the whole DB philosophy and think I'm being a doormat.

The people in whom I'm confiding believe in the sanctity of keeping one's vows, fighting for one's marriage (esp. when there are kids), and who agree with the DB philosophy, even though they didn't realize that it fell under the "DB" heading.

Had a great day today. Son invited his friend John over, and all of the kids played outside in the beautiful, hot weather - shooting super-soakers, swimming in the pool, playing in the yard. Fed the kids their fave for dinner - sloppy joes & waffle fries, and then when I brought John back to his parents' house, they invited my kids and I to stay to make smores. The kids, all sugared up, went off to play, and John's parents (my friend Dave and his wife) proceeded to make fun of OM. They claim that it wasn't done to make me feel better, but b/c they just don't get wife's attraction to "Barney Rubble." More than a few "Fruity Pebbles" references were made. I realized that I hadn't thought of wife or OM at all until they brought him up...which was 9:15 pm. Wow. Did I actually have a GAL day?!?

The guys in my fraternity called to inform me that we'll be playing euchre at a specific bar this Friday. I was told to brings cards and "an attitude." Between that and the party on Saturday, I'd say the GAL project is starting to kick in.