The "do you think we'll end up together?" question is BIG. It means she's thinking. Followed, of course, by the usual retreat. Totally expected. You handle it well.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Hey its a start! You are doing so great Jon, and it seems to me she is thinking about your R. It is always a good sign if they ask the question of whether or not you will end up together! You are doing great on the little things, and I think things are beginning to progress!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Thanks everyone! No contact this week yet, but that's OK. I've got to get more of insurance and legal stuff done for her, which is always her excuse to contact me.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Sometimes we just need a reason to contact, rather than just calling. I know even now, my H and I don't contact unless there is a reason, but then we sit on the phone. Well, we used to. So be patient, she will call!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
You were right, about 20 minutes later she called. It was a nice, pleasant talk. I'll just leave her alone again now.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Quick update: Had a great weekend, hanging out with my sister. I intentionally left my phone off, and when I turned it on there were some texts from W asking for another loan.
We talked yesterday, and it turns out she had a flat, left her car on the side of the road, and it got towed. When she got it out of impound (which costs $200), she found that $600 had been stolen from under her seat. So in all, a very expensive night.
She said "I feel stupid, but I guess I'm learning to grow up". Reality again. She also applied for several jobs. It was a nice talk, and she didn't bring up the loan subject.
Today she texted me "stressing. I don't know who to turn to"
I'm thinking about buying some Wal-Mart stock from her. It would be a way to help her out, but not screw myself over. Really, I just want to say "come home". What do you think?
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
I think the Walmart stock is a good idea. It keeps you financial sound, and gives her a little cash.
Do you think she is ready to hear "come home?"
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I like the idea of the stock way better than giving her money.
While it's all well and good to look out for her, if you keep bailing her out then she will do one of two things: 1) never hit bottom and grow up; or 2) come back out of obligation/guilt and run away again later.
I know you don't want her to sink, but be careful about bailing her out. Think about what you would do for a friend.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Maybe I've just become skeptical, but I have a hard time believing anyone would walk away from their car with $600 under the seat. What was she doing with $600 cash in the first place? Does she not have a bank account? Does she not carry a purse? Maybe it's just me, but it smells a bit fishy. She's been asking you for way too much money lately. You've got to stop bailing her out each and every time. If you must do something, buy her stock, but it's time to stop bailing her out.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
