I know I lost a lot of myself because I was so devoted to my husband and wanted to be the perfect wife. I always thought when you got married, you were supposed to do all you could to ensure your spouse's needs were being met. I may have gone overboard, but I would have hoped he could have talked to me about it rather than turning to her, you know? In hindsight, I realize equal focus must be placed on self and spouse. I believe I probably was a bit boring during the past year... bummer. I think the rejection I continued to face took its toll and I just stopped trying to initiate anything with him.
When my first relationship ended, my ex bf said I never made him feel "needed". He said I was too independent and he needed to feel needed. It's a delicate balance between being "needy" (which I don't think I was, but maybe I'm not looking closely enough at my past behavior in my marriage) and making the one you're with feel needed. Or maybe not all men need to feel needed? I dunno.
Originally Posted By: lodo
Hey, you like all the same things i do - we'll definitely have to plan a hike or something sometime. Do you skate ski by any chance? I ended up going alone last year cause I couldn't find anyone to go with. Usually go up to royal gorge by Sugar Bowl.
I've never tried skate skiing. I wouldn't classify myself as an accomplished snow bunny. I once scootched down a black diamond in Tahoe on my bum. And I pissed off a bunch of show offs on the moguls... not my finest day, but fun. I always find a way to make an experience fun. That's one thing I love about me... that and I'm game to try just about anything once (unless we're talking bungee jumping or base jumping (I almost typed freebasing! - not interested in that either!!!). A hike would be awesome!
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
