Happy-- I have it in my divorce decree, too. I hope that he steps up before the kids have to know what an a$$ he is. An important point to consider: people can take out loans for the education. You can NOT take out a loan to retire on. If I have anything to put away, it goes to my account before I put it in the kids' accounts, just for that reason. I hope we will have enough for both, but if I fall short, I will help them with the loans when the time comes.
Oh, and it does sound like narcissism. You might want to read parts of my thread--mine (and others) are starting to show some patterns of this type of persona...
